Empowering Another

Empowerment is a word we commonly hear in today’s world. But what does it mean?

The dictionary definition is:

 noun 1. authority or power given to someone to do something. 2. The process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one's life and claiming one's rights."political steps for the empowerment of women".

From a coaching perspective both of these descriptions are relevant. 

I have recently re-read ‘The Surrender Experiment’ by Michael A Singer,  the story he tells of his journey inspirational. This quote from him came up as I was researching into empowerment and I think what he says here is key.

Michael A Singer quote ‘you can only take inner freedom away from yourself...’

Michael A Singer quote ‘you can only take inner freedom away from yourself...’

Another great example of this is Dr. Viktor E Frankl,  Auschwitz concentration camp survivor wrote a powerful booked called “A Man’s Search For Meaning’ from which the following quote come:

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

So really all empowerment is self-empowerment. It’s all an inside job, our thoughts about our situation, what is going on around us create our experience of life. The famous Wayne Dyre quote tells us that when we “Change The Way You Look At Things And The Things You Look At Change”.  This is a true and powerful statement but sometimes it doesn’t feel easy or even possible. We can all get stuck, and this is where as a coach is where I help and support people to look at things differently.

Fixing someone’s problem with advise, actions or suggestions of what to do is not empowering. It could be support or kindness assuming the person has asked for help, but to be able to support them exploring their options or help them to learn a new skill, to be feel more able to do it for themselves next time – that is empowerment.

For me, my belief in my client’s success, that they may not yet have about themselves, and patient support are the keys to create the safe space to create great abs powerful things. 

The focus of this month’s coaching group is Empowerment. If you’re interested in this subject, from a personal or professional perspective get in touch and find out more


Kerry Pocock